Extreme obesity

To start with, this is a serious question and I'm very curious about it, particularly when it comes to men as I have somewhat a personal experience of it to some level.

For those of you who are super fat men (or dating/partners of super fat men), has there been a point at which standard, penetrative sex has become impossible without the use of toys or other additions to make it work? I'm aware that every man is equipped differently and fat distribution plays a big part, but I'm generally curious about it. Is there a point where you've tried and then had to basically say "okay, this isn't going to work anymore so we'll have to do things another way from now on"?

Oof one of my dreams, especially getting to the point where I can't reach it myself

i met my current partner when i was maybe 325 lbs. it wasn't really planned, but i introduced her to feedism and it became part of our romantic life, and my weight climbed sort of gradually.

you are so right about fat distribution being a big part of the challenge here... i am pretty averagely endowed, but i already had a significant fupa when we met. by the time i was around 400 lbs, i was pretty much buried all the time.

now, even if you're buried, that doesn't mean you can't have penetrative intercourse. fat is soft, it moves! but eventually as i continued to gain it was just too difficult and uncomfortable to be in a position where it was practical or enjoyable.

i have been losing weight for the last year or so - still not quite down to 400 lbs again yet. but it's funny that my weight isn't coming off the same way it came on. my fupa unfortunately hasn't shrunk back to what it was the last time i was at this weight.

Luckily I was pretty "well endowed" but some of my members has been buried, i find laying on your back being the best position with a partner (in part because I get too out of breath at times when I'm in control and I have gotten lazy lol). Now on my own, someone recommended putting a pillow under my butt to help raise the hips higher to reach around the belly.

It's all trial and error tbh.

i should add that there are lots of other ways to have sex and be intimate other than boring old vanilla penetration!

my partner (amazingem) has posted somewhere on the forums about the kinkier side of this.

there is oral, anal, and a whole host of other ways to derive sexual pleasure. i also spent years trying/learning how to achieve a hands-free orgasm, which is a "next level" kind of sexual adventure beyond what penetrative sex and deliver. i don't necessarily recommend it because it is hard to get to - i probably chased it for almost a decade before i "unlocked" the ability. but if people are interested, there are resources out there (i recommend the mindgasm app for newbies).